Jezuz Khrizt, janie- pardon my French, all- but dang I feel for you.

Golly.

You are in the middle of this in so many ways. Your hubby is blind and cannot drive- so YOU have to. You want no part of taking this dude to get stocked up on the stuff that's causing problems and feel like you're contributing to the problems- and also make you feel like you're lying and going against the wishes of those you care for, but at the same time, you feel a duty to Jon- who in turn, feels a duty to his friend.

UGH.

I wouldn't want to be in this crazy, sticky mess either. I understand your dilemma and empathize w/ you for sure. Hang in there, dear. You'll be in my thoughts. Ugh!

In Al-Anon I learned to "Let go & Let God", you, Jon, this dude's folks NO-ONE can make him stop he has a disease and it causes alcoholics to lie, cheat, do anything and everything to get that almighty alcohol fix. You must for your own good use a method called "healthy Detachment", just detach from this sick person and his sickness... if you must withdraw from the whole scene all-together you just must FOR YOUR OWN GOOD!!!

The state of mind this alcoholic is in makes him not give a rats-ass about sh** (not anyone or anything) except the next drink, and how he can obtain it. Please Janie for your well-being just back away completely. Let Jon, his folks and whomever else deal with this guy and be his enablers. Put your foot down and don't allow it to be your problem any longer! He is sick, if you continue to get wrapped up in his drama and bull**it it will drag you down, as you are beginning to experience. I am not trying to sound mean or nasty, just realistic and honest. I know from 1st hand experience these drunks are some sick son-of-a-bit**es! You don't need your life affected by his disease any longer!!!! You deserve better sweet lady!

Here is something that helps me through things.
The Facts Of Life
Life is not fair.
No one is exempt from death.
Physics rules the universe and biology rules life.
The universe does not care.
The only constant in life is change.
There is always a choice.
Wishing never makes it so.
A person can't exceed their limits.
A person is responsible for their own happiness.
It is impossible to change the character of another.

I appreciate the support guys. I needed it lol.
You know since I met Jon I have tried to make the world more accessible and enjoyed doing so. I have always tried to just kind of be an accessibility option for Jon when it comes to driving. He loved driving so much and thats actually how he lost his site. He had a car wreck. This situation with his friend has been the first time we have had an issue when it comes to the car.
I was angry at his friend for tricking us last time. I was angry that when he called he just assumed we would be ok with doing it again when he knew Jon had promised his Dad we wouldnt. I felt like I had betrayed two elderly people who had been nothing but kind to me. I felt like I was letting Jon down. I felt like I should just shut it and do what ever Jon says. Then I felt ticked cause his buddy was putting me in the situation.

I understand how his folks feel. They dont want to push him enough til he leaves cause then they dont know what will happen to him. His Dad has already had one bad heart attack a few years ago and is worrying himself sick over this. From now on Jon can deal how ever he wants with him. Im having nothing to say about it one way or the other. Like he said he has been his friend since highschool. I have only known them a few years.

Jani, Jon may think of himself as this creatures friend, but you can bet the feeling is not reciprical. I've had some experience with users and this guy is a user. Once he can't get Jon to do what he wants he'll toss him aside like an empty beer can.