After they got there with the baby I got to love on her for hours. We made good use of papaws lazy boy rocker recliner. I DID give her back to her mother when she needed a new diaper though. She is really cute...just starting to smile and giggle.
Just to show you what a peach my mother in law is the babys Mom was telling me that she has been having a horrible time with the other two girls. They are 11 and 14. Grandma made the comment to the older one that she needed to watch her figure so the 14 year old has been on a crazy diet and has lost weight and shed a lot of tears over it. The kid was not fat to begin with. She made the same sort of comment to the middle one so now she is on a diet. The oldest one had her Mom take her to the store and get her a big shirt just to wear when they go Grandmas house. These two kids are now climbing on the scales as soon as they get up in the morning :mad:
It infuriates me that she is messing with their self esteem like this. Everytime I see these girls I always make sure to tell them how beautiful they are and how proud I am of them both. I remember how much that would have meant to me at that age. The kids Mom was telling me a few cracks Grandma had made to her about her weight which would have lost Gran a few teeth if she had said them to me :mad: The fact she never had made a comment like that to me shows she knows who she can and cannot get away with that crap with. Wait til the next time I see her. Im gonna ask her if she noticed the kids are loosing weight. I wanna see if she owns up to it. I wont break my sil's confidence.
It infuriates me that she is messing with their self esteem like this. Everytime I see these girls I always make sure to tell them how beautiful they are and how proud I am of them both. I remember how much that would have meant to me at that age. The kids Mom was telling me a few cracks Grandma had made to her about her weight which would have lost Gran a few teeth if she had said them to me :mad: The fact she never had made a comment like that to me shows she knows who she can and cannot get away with that crap with. Wait til the next time I see her. Im gonna ask her if she noticed the kids are loosing weight. I wanna see if she owns up to it. I wont break my sil's confidence.
RE: "It infuriates me that she is messing with their self esteem like this."
I am in complete & total agreement with you, janie- and I sense you taking some wonderful, loving steps to try and curtail this woman's awful and potentially damaging behavior. Good for you, dear one!
Y'know... I am FAT and have been as long as I can remember.
I know it's not healthy. I know that when I die it will likely be at the cause of something weight-related, whether it's when I'm 50 or 90. I have lost and re-gained the same 100 lbs. 4 times in my life. I have stressed, I have cried, I have felt "less than", and I have sacrificed happiness over it. I know how to exercise and I know how to cook healthy and eat right. But I don't do it enough of the time. Maybe one day I will be compelled to change my habits for the better, forever- maybe not.
Am I gluttonous and over-indulgent? Probably.
Where am I going with all this?
Notice- I don't "blame" anyone but myself... BUT, support and the proper kind of care is totally important and necessary.
I don't try to blame anything BUT MYSELF for my heaviness. It wasn't my Mom's fault for keeping sugar in the house. It wasn't my Dad's fault for insisting I clean my plate. It wasn't the school lunch-lady's fault, my pastor's fault, my thyroid's fault, McDonald's fault, or the company that makes Cracker Jacks. It was ME. My choices. My habits. My actions. BUT, those in charge of meeting my needs as a child didn't always do/say the best thing. Did they mean well? Probably. Did the DO well. Almost never.
After years of struggle, while not 100% great with it, I am finally at a better place with my own personal body-image than ever before. Whereas once I started a new diet every Monday morning of my life- now it's only about every third Monday! I haven't given up- but I have accepted that if I never lose a pound, I'm still a fine human being who is capable of love, and worthy of being loved.
I am a person with many fantastic qualities, and many not-so-fantastic qualities... but NONE of these are weight-related. And for anyone else out there with weight issues- whether you are perceived by others to be overweight or underweight, please accept my virtual-hug and know that you are wonderful just the way you are, whether you change your eating habits, or not.
And janie- thanks for introducing this valuable topic of conversation!
I am in complete & total agreement with you, janie- and I sense you taking some wonderful, loving steps to try and curtail this woman's awful and potentially damaging behavior. Good for you, dear one!
Y'know... I am FAT and have been as long as I can remember.
I know it's not healthy. I know that when I die it will likely be at the cause of something weight-related, whether it's when I'm 50 or 90. I have lost and re-gained the same 100 lbs. 4 times in my life. I have stressed, I have cried, I have felt "less than", and I have sacrificed happiness over it. I know how to exercise and I know how to cook healthy and eat right. But I don't do it enough of the time. Maybe one day I will be compelled to change my habits for the better, forever- maybe not.
Am I gluttonous and over-indulgent? Probably.
Where am I going with all this?
Notice- I don't "blame" anyone but myself... BUT, support and the proper kind of care is totally important and necessary.
I don't try to blame anything BUT MYSELF for my heaviness. It wasn't my Mom's fault for keeping sugar in the house. It wasn't my Dad's fault for insisting I clean my plate. It wasn't the school lunch-lady's fault, my pastor's fault, my thyroid's fault, McDonald's fault, or the company that makes Cracker Jacks. It was ME. My choices. My habits. My actions. BUT, those in charge of meeting my needs as a child didn't always do/say the best thing. Did they mean well? Probably. Did the DO well. Almost never.
After years of struggle, while not 100% great with it, I am finally at a better place with my own personal body-image than ever before. Whereas once I started a new diet every Monday morning of my life- now it's only about every third Monday! I haven't given up- but I have accepted that if I never lose a pound, I'm still a fine human being who is capable of love, and worthy of being loved.
I am a person with many fantastic qualities, and many not-so-fantastic qualities... but NONE of these are weight-related. And for anyone else out there with weight issues- whether you are perceived by others to be overweight or underweight, please accept my virtual-hug and know that you are wonderful just the way you are, whether you change your eating habits, or not.
And janie- thanks for introducing this valuable topic of conversation!
Kevin Hon you are such a blessing and true gift to anyone lucky enough to cross your path. I will always be grateful to Brook for bringing you here.
Just wait til the next time I speak with little Mrs. Perfect. Im gonna mention I noticed the kids have lost weight and see if she says anything. Jon has a buddy whole lives with his girlfriend and her two kids. Jons friend is blind and is obsessed with working out. He is always telling the girlfriends 13 year old that she is fat. He makes me so mad and I tell him what I think of it. The girl says she knows he is joking but I still wish he wouldnt do that. Everytime they come by he scowls at his girlfriend if she takes a cookie or anything I offer her that way. Last time they were here it was so cold outside I made her a cup of hot chocolate with marshmallows and gave her a cookie. He turned around and patted her belly and scowled. I smacked him on top of the head and told him to mind his own business. She is far from fat and her daughter isnt fat either.
I can bring his behavior up to my MIl and tell her exactly what I think of that sort of thing.
Just wait til the next time I speak with little Mrs. Perfect. Im gonna mention I noticed the kids have lost weight and see if she says anything. Jon has a buddy whole lives with his girlfriend and her two kids. Jons friend is blind and is obsessed with working out. He is always telling the girlfriends 13 year old that she is fat. He makes me so mad and I tell him what I think of it. The girl says she knows he is joking but I still wish he wouldnt do that. Everytime they come by he scowls at his girlfriend if she takes a cookie or anything I offer her that way. Last time they were here it was so cold outside I made her a cup of hot chocolate with marshmallows and gave her a cookie. He turned around and patted her belly and scowled. I smacked him on top of the head and told him to mind his own business. She is far from fat and her daughter isnt fat either.
I can bring his behavior up to my MIl and tell her exactly what I think of that sort of thing.