We went to my MIL's a few days ago. I had made chicken soup and brioche for a woman she goes to church with who just started chemo. I sent her the food and a couple of jars of the jam. Soo I mentioned to her that while at my FIL's for Christmas I noticed the oldest grand daughter was much skinnier. She said oh I know! I have been telling her to eat more. She said I think it is just where she has gotten taller. I said well um..I wonder if someone..maybe at school has said something to her about her weight and she has started dieting. MIL..oh no I think she is just taller. SOoo..then I go into talking about Jons friend who is always telling his stepdaughter she is fat and exactly what I think of him and his comments. She was all I couldnt agree more. You know I honestly dont think she even remembers doing it. That is how little attention she pays and how scattered she is.
wow, janie!
Possibly too, she's just playing along to divert blame from herself for the counter-productive, potentially-dangerous techniques she's opted to take on and use. Sad...
There can sometimes be a fine line between doing the right thing- and doing harm. One definitely needs to pick and choose the tools they use carefully, 'cause it's a serious, serious thing.
One could definitely side with her in her concern and hope to steer a child towards more healthy options- no harm in that, if done properly. But forcing, or handling it in ways that harm or could possibly have unintended, dreadful outcome is the norm with many of these "good intentions". Eek!
Kudos to YOU in your continued efforts!
Possibly too, she's just playing along to divert blame from herself for the counter-productive, potentially-dangerous techniques she's opted to take on and use. Sad...
There can sometimes be a fine line between doing the right thing- and doing harm. One definitely needs to pick and choose the tools they use carefully, 'cause it's a serious, serious thing.
One could definitely side with her in her concern and hope to steer a child towards more healthy options- no harm in that, if done properly. But forcing, or handling it in ways that harm or could possibly have unintended, dreadful outcome is the norm with many of these "good intentions". Eek!
Kudos to YOU in your continued efforts!
I feel so sorry for the two kids. They are at that age where they notice boys and hope boys notice them in a positive light and here she is throwing in her two cents worth.
Sometimes I can over do it though. My sis took her 5 year old somewhere once and someone remarked on how pretty she was and my niece goes..my Naney says Im beautiful lol. I just always want them to know especially while they are to young to get into trouble that I think they are wonderful beautiful little people and I couldnt be more proud of all of them.
Sometimes I can over do it though. My sis took her 5 year old somewhere once and someone remarked on how pretty she was and my niece goes..my Naney says Im beautiful lol. I just always want them to know especially while they are to young to get into trouble that I think they are wonderful beautiful little people and I couldnt be more proud of all of them.
dodge them or be sympathetic to the shortcomings of 'shallow' people who judge heavy people by their weight, instead of the productive people that they are.
Here is a pic of the two of us.
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Here is a pic of the two of us.
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